The story of my experience placing this book on hold at my library illustrates the exact reason why I believe this book is so vitally needed in our society. Some gay and lesbians who act on their attraction, and others who don't. We need to be careful with this term. It really comes across in this book as in everything he does. Preston Sprinkle (Ph D, Aberdeen) is a teacher, speaker, and New York Times bestselling author. I didn't decide this. After all, gay and lesbian people live the same lives as straight people. Just like you and me and everybody else, they're different. Through honest conversation, real-life examples, and biblical research, Sprinkle unpacks what we can know to be true, and how Scriptures overall message to us today allows us to move forward and find answers that align with Gods intent. My heart breaks whenever I think about Jordan in that church office. However you feel about homosexuality, the Bible, or whatever, this truth is nonnegotiable: Homosexuality is about people and not about some issue. What if someone is only slightly gay? I tend to just use LGBT or sometimes LGBTQ. Highly recommend!!! We'll talk more about the term, in chapters 6 and 7. (someone attracted to both men and women), so that word is okay. And they have stories. Because the answer is that Jesus came for EVERYONE, that He died for ALL sinners, that He loved and loves ALL people no matter what they do but because of Who He is.I highly recommend and encourage all parents and all Christians to read this. bestselling author Dr. Preston Sprinkle has encountered these same questions, and as a theologian and a college professor he has dealt with these issues firsthand. (someone attracted to both men and women), so that word is okay. Preston Sprinkle does an excellent job arguing for the importance of loving and accepting all people, especially those of the LGBTQ community. Dan is a gay man happily married to another man. He writes this short book with real clarity. He has written several books including People to Be Loved, Living in a Gray World, Charis, and Erasing Hell, which he co-authored with Francis Chan. Includes initial monthly payment and selected options. He admits that there has been a lot of hurt done in the name of Christianity and that churches and individuals need to seek a better way rather than just publicly humiliating someone. But I also cringed a little bit wanting to clarify that the book was not for my sonit was for me. There was only one typo that I could find in my ARC. Embodied: Transgender Identities, the Church, and What the Bible Has to Say, People to Be Loved: Why Homosexuality Is Not Just an Issue, Grace/Truth 1.0: Five Conversations Every Thoughtful Christian Should Have About Faith, Sexuality and Gender, Scandalous Grace: A Book for Tired Christians Seeking Rest, Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage? Millions of people have been psychologically and emotionally slaughtered over something they were called more than twenty years ago. Reviewed in the United States on January 8, 2023. We need to be careful with this term. It shouldnt be weird. Does this item contain quality or formatting issues? Goodness gracious.Anyway, none of that is about this book specifically, but it certainly affirmed why I was reading the book and why the book is so desperately needed.I cant say that I agree with 100% of what is said in these pages. He didn't know what to say. What if they're not acting on their attraction? I would highly recommend this book. ", The leader continued, "You know, Jordan, what God thinks about homosexuals? (Other than the Bible itself. (We'll get into the whole "born with it" debate later as well.) I struggle with same-sex attraction. One thing I've learned from talking to gay people over the years is that words really matter. When he came out to his parents about being gay, they told him he was an abomination and kicked him out of the house. We also need to be careful about the term homosexuality. When in doubt, just stick to LGBT. His mom wasn't domineering, his dad was around, his sisters didn't dress him up in pink, and he wasn't sexually abused. But we need to be very clear about what we mean. Sandra Gray has worked for WCW and WWE in the past. I think you'd probably resist such a label, since you are a unique person, not some clone cut out of straightness. : Stories that make them sing, and stories that make them shudder with cold sweat. How can we best love people who are same-sex attracted among us? Sources of grey water include kitchen sinks, showers, baths . After all, gay and lesbian people live the same lives as straight people. There was a problem loading your book clubs. Queer is sort of a catchall identifier for everyone else who feels marginalized based on their sexuality. Words such as "we" versus "they," and "us" versus "them." The author wasn't afraid to state his belief which was that the Bible did not support same-sex relationships and endorses opposite-sex relationships. In todays world, the topic of homosexuality seems to be part of everyday conversation in the media, in politics, and even inside churches, with pressure to accept one view or the other. He too was born into a Christian home and discovered he was attracted to the same sex at fourteen. And those who used to love Jesus but were so mocked and hated by Christians that they've left the church. : He grew up a lot like Justin, but Jordan believes that acting on homosexual desires is a sin. Does every gay person have the same, I think what people really mean by "lifestyle" is here we go . Maybe you've heard it too. Copyright 2015 Preston Sprinkle. They prefer to be called gay or lesbian. I'm not going to lecture at you, cram info down your throat, or even tell you what you must believe. I'm probably more pure than any other guy my age. The line between homosexual. I read "Embodied" first. And those who used to love Jesus but were so mocked and hated by Christians that they've left the church. The last 4 chapter and the appendix were eye-opening and interesting and gave me things to think through and question in my own way.The basis of this book is perfectly explained in this excerpt:Dont worry about being too liberal or too conservative. The author uses debunked theories about homosexuality, transgender, and intersexed people. My hope is that hearing their stories will help us "put flesh" on the topic of homosexuality. Think about it: Pretend you are fifteen years old and struggling with same-sex attraction. By KEVIN GRAY. I have had conversations already that have informed me of the nature of the issue, and it's not like a "born this way" situation. Living in a Gray World "This is the book i have been waiting for! Brief content visible, double tap to read full content. It looks like WhatsApp is not installed on your phone. For details, please see the Terms & Conditions associated with these promotions. Lifestyle? In the context I minister, this topic comes up on a weekly basis. No handwriting, highlighting or underlining. So let's have an honest dialogue about a very tough topic. My friend Lesli is a female, but from the time she was four years old she believed that she was a boy. Full content visible, double tap to read brief content. Abstract and Figures. Both gay and straight people have gay and straight friends. God loves you and has great plans for you. Read instantly on your browser with Kindle for Web. It breaks down the Christian doctines in a way that doesn't feel judgmental or hateful. And today, he actually has a very good relationship with people at his church. While I don't believe this to be true, it does fit with Christian beliefs and again does not say that these people are terrible. Each one of these people has some experience with homosexuality. There has to be a better way, and there is . As someone who works with youth, I looked into this book as a reference. So let's have an honest dialogue about a very tough topic. He then apologized, released her, and warned her that he'd kill her if she told anyone about what had happened. Who are us? Wouldnt make eye contact with me. As Christians, we SHOULD be having these conversations with our teen children and our preteen children. And this book I mean, conversation is about understanding fellow human beings. All rights reserved. This is terribly wrong. The term gay is often used as a synonym for "same-sex attraction" (or SSA) and doesn't necessarily mean that the "gay" person is acting on that attraction. Preston and his wifeChris, live in Boise, Idaho, with their 3 daugthers and 1 son. (Even though it is written for the 15-22 yo demographic so they should read it too!) With palms still dripping with sweat, he decided to get it over with. Let's begin our conversation by meeting some real people. I'm not a, I don't struggle with wanting to have sex with children. We have been waiting for a book to help Christian teens navigate questions about sex and gender. First page of Dodsley 's illustrated edition of Gray's Elegy with illustration by Richard Bentley. In today's world, the topic of homosexuality seems to be part of daily conversation in the media, in politics, and even inside churches, with pressure to acce. PDF download. We also need to be careful about the term, It's fine to use it; I'll use it throughout our conversation. I purchased the kindle version of this book to screen it for my teenager, then ordered the paperback for her to read. Those nasty, abominable, gay people. Dan is a gay man happily married to another man. Yet another thing? is about understanding fellow human beings. Throughout high school, Eric was mocked, beat up, and made to feel less than human by Christians and non-Christians. Men who feel more like women, and women who feel like men. This book seems to fit the bill: it is attractive, well-written, and faithful to biblical . But with 6 teenagers of my own, this is an excellent resource that balances truth and grace backed by solid theology and scriptural foundations as well as scientific research. In case you're wondering, Jordan got through that frightful evening with the leaders at his church. There are no bad questions in our conversation. Brilliant. Maybe you've heard it too. I've even used these terms a few times already, in case you didn't notice! Preston Sprinkle really seems to hit the nail on the head with this book. A Great Guide for Understanding LGBT Questions, Reviewed in the United States on July 26, 2021. Follow authors to get new release updates, plus improved recommendations. Now let me be up front. Does the Bible really say homosexuality is wrong? Even if you desired to be one of "us" (the good, righteous, straight people, who happen to be attracted to the opposite sex), you've just been pushed out to the community of "them." When many Christians hear the term, they immediately think of sexual immorality. But almost every gay person I know does not like to be called "a homosexual." Our culture is certainly sending messages about this topic to pre-teens and teens! As these examples illustrate, it is practically impossible to live comfortably with a black-and-white picture of a world containing many shades of gray. I've even used these terms a few times already, in case you didn't notice! I'm glad you asked these good questions. And we're going to listen to a lot of stories. By living a lukewarm life you are trying to suspend yourself in an unnatural world created by you and mankind, not God. To have a clear and deep book that is easy for any student to pick up and read is such a gift. Yes, a big old stone will probably break your bones, but words have the power to crush your heart. I would have felt the same way if I had been checking out a book on teens having sex and the librarian questioned me on it and put it under my 12 year old sons name. Living in a Gray World: A Christian Teen's Guide to Understanding Homosexuality Kindle Edition by Zondervan, (Author), Preston Sprinkle (Illustrator) Format: Kindle Edition 290 ratings Teachers' pick See all formats and editions Kindle $9.99 Read with Our Free App Paperback $16.99 Other new, used and collectible from $7.97 Your writing gives insight into a very deep struggle and a world that is often confusing to many. Living in the gray area means accepting that all foods in moderation can be part of a balanced and healthy diet. He believes that 'the homosexuality question is first and foremost about beautiful people loved by God' (p.52), so the book is filled with stories of people Preston . One of the most important books for teens, Reviewed in the United States on August 17, 2020. We'll talk about all this stuff in chapter 4. What if someone's actually straight, but they've had same-sex experiences in the past? So let's have that discussion. How can we best love people who are same-sex attracted among us? Instead, the Bible gives Christians the liberty to make God-glorifying decisions based on their convictions. Does every gay person have the same lifestyle? ansexual) and a long list of others. And unfortunately, many gay and lesbian individuals have been slashed by words that feel like razor blades across their eyeballs. You can say homosexual when referring to concepts or things rather than people ("homosexual relationship," "homosexual desires"). Living in a Gray World helps to begin a conversation with teens about the language and terminology used by those who identify as LGBTQ. Dr. Sprinkle shares biblical truth and compassion about this important topic. We'll talk about all this stuff in chapter 4. It's recommended for teens age 15 and up, but I would actually recommend it for mature younger teens as well. So let's have that discussion. I think it's time to have a conversation about homosexuality. Or you could use the well-known acronym LGBT. This seems weird until you hear her story. in this discussion. Justin is a Bible-believing Christian who grew up in a loving family. So when people talk about "the gay lifestyle," what they may really mean is gay sex. Featured. They prefer to be called gay or lesbian. Those nasty, abominable, gay people. [1] The poem's origins are unknown, but it was partly inspired by Gray's thoughts following the death of the poet Richard West in 1742. If two people love each other and they're not hurting anyone else, then can't they get married? Throughout our conversation, you and I are going to ask some hard questions and sort through some tough debates. The last person I want you to meet is Eric. Highly recommend!!! Good questions, hard questions, weird questions, or questions you can't ask anyone else. is also an educational book that parents can read and discuss with their children. And I think this book shouldve been much clearer on the gospel message and conversion, rather than assuming it, or even implying (at the end of the book) that the sole distinguishing mark of a Christian is that they love. This book provides clear and simple language for tackling this complex and fraught topic. R. I'm gay." Reviewed in the United States on October 4, 2022. 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