Thats not the label she would have given it, but thats what it was. To whom do we confide our secrets? Just how much I depend on her. So we basically both spent two years (and money) on a hobby that neither of us actually enjoyed. They're not always super juicy some are just embarrassing anecdotes that you've been dying to tell someone, but need to know the person is completely trustworthy. I kept making excuses to go back to the dessert table and scarf down my sis in laws cupcakes especially when little kids were near it to make it look like they were eating most of the cupcakes. You wouldn't hand out this privileged information to just anyone, but you need your BFF to be caught up on the newest season of Stranger Things so you can talk about it together. I never told my wife that her mother tried to have sex with me. For our first eight or so months of marriage, my wife and I were never apart due to moving around and being in lockdown. "All I wanted was a pair of knee-high, lace-up Dr. Marten boots. ", "Im from south Louisiana and my dad is in a Mardi Gras Crew. By submitting email you agree to get Bored Panda newsletter. Keeping sensitive information hidden or disguised is a basic skill in the human toolkit. Your romantic partner is typically someone you think you know quite well. A grand unified theory of wisdom distills years of research and prior models of wisdom. I realized that I still had the rolls of printed-up stickers in my pocket when I got home because I had been marking things down that day. We can hide shameful secrets for years, things which were never our fault, out of fear of reprobation and judgment from others. This also brings levity to the interaction. Im a 36F and have a special savings account for a future sugar baby when Im old and wrinkled. I am an only child and was raised by a single mother. By. He thought it was really sweet. We've been itching to tell someone, but first, we want to make absolutely sure the person we tell these stories to will not judge us now for how weird we were back then. Weird family. I keep dark thoughts and feelings from him all the time, I'd make him miserable if I didn't.He knows, btw, I am not keeping all of it from him, just a lot of the excessive stuff. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. You don't have to deal with it on your own. You can read more about it and change your preferences. It makes me feel better to be able to unclog my mind and put my thoughts into words. But she was arguing with the Therapist about what I really feel and how I should take vacations alone since I have had panic attacks on vacation before and that ruins them for me (or maybe her).I don't know what to do, but I am tired of walking on eggshells. I said no.I lied. Perhaps it's time you learnt to love yourself too? I can't ruin that for him. If I don't hide it then it's gone. I have thought of suicide but I cant do that to my husband and kids. You are a decent human for not bringing that up even at the end of your marriage. Wtf? I lied and told her I didn't, but the truth is, my grandmother by marriage (no blood relation) sexually harassed and abused me as a preteen and teenager. she knew I grew up in the projects up until age 10, but I think because i never wore it like a badge of honor or carried myself in the stereotypical way of someone who would come from that environment, many people think i was unaffected. No excuse like asbergers. They were making out and he was fingering her. Community Contributor. We had been together for 6 years when my dog died and he took me out to the woods to camp for a week so I wouldn't have to be home. Once a secret is completely out of the bag, however, the information takes on a life of its own sometimes with unpredictable results. I technically did pay for the groceries because I was checking them out at the self-checkout and paying money for them, but I was getting salmon fillets and racks of ribs for $2, big veggie trays for $1, expensive cheese for $.99, etc. Let's keep in touch and we'll send more your way. The idea of playing dumb, one form of knowledge hiding, may seem to be a bad idea if you're trying to impress others. I have osteoarthritis in my lower back and scoliosis to the point where I am most likely going to need spine surgery. Men have long been silent and stoic about their inner lives, but theres every reason for them to open up emotionallyand their partners are helping. So it was duped and accident and my mom got the money my dad intended her to get. I feel this unholy fear either to fix it to make the anger go away or run and hide. Everyone has secrets. but i didnt want to be with a virgin either. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 116. There's something so morbidly satisfying about confessional horror stories from real people on the internet. You also let her know how long it's been since you shaved your legs or washed your favorite pair of jeans. she straight up bullied me at work. Would you rather know the date of your death or the cause of your death? I'm glad you and your mother dodged that heartbreak. It all started when u/dusty_ninja asked other users on the platform, "What is the darkest thing you have kept from your partner?" But she doesn't want to talk about it, and when we disagree we don't even get to argue. Secrets get organized around shame and embarrassment and the management of reputation, and they remain accepted within our social groups. she knew I grew up in the projects up until age 10, but I think because i never wore it like a badge of honor or carried myself in the stereotypical way of someone who would come from that environment, many people think i was unaffected. She knows your deepest darkest secrets, and you know hers. New research identifies key approaches and specific steps taken. He made it look like an accident cause he thought it was the only way to take care of my mother set her up with his life insurance. Ch Ch Em Em 2 ly cm hng t giai thoi m nhn Ba Tr v T Nh. Im only 31 years old. I knew this. I was going through a divorce and suffering from severe depression. Blamed it on the raccoons.". And 30 People Deliver Sincere Answers, 50 Historical Figures People Thought Were Nuts At The Time But Were Proven To Be Right Years Later, "You Are So Beaut-OHGOD! Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a relatively common problem, often difficult to treat. I clean up when I'm going home so my wife can't tell but I'm still not quite 100% when I'm home with her.She's struggling with stuff and it breaks my heart I can't meet her needs but I need this job to pay for our future. So I went and bought a small bottle of shark teeth from the gift shop, spread them out all over a strip of beach we were hanging at and marveled at every shark tooth he brought me. He was young and thought he had the whole sex thing figured out and thought that women who had sex were more mature and more mindful partners. He was 38 at the time. ", To explain her point, Quinn invited us to imagine revealing our deepest, darkest secret to the barista who serves us our morning coffee. I cried because my mom was counting on me to be able to pay for the groceries that week and I told him that. Theyre both still friends of mine, and weirdly close, despite having their own partners in life. I like to spread it out so I can have an enjoyable snack a few days in a row.Sometimes I'll even buy one with gluten in it intentionally so she can't have it. You know, the real dreams. Sometimes I spend whole meetings wondering how they got the big meeting table through the door. Or, if the conversation has turned serious and she's just revealed a dark secret of her own, you know she'll be in a good place to listen to yours. If you go days without showering, you can certainly tell your BFF and know she won't judge you for it. I have high functioning depression. i had a note attached that read thanks for being such a nice person . i was so anxious about getting in trouble that i used a gift card (purchased at a store using cash) and a throwaway email account to purchase the prank. My research has shown that the average person keeps around thirteen secrets. No man is going to stop me from peeing in the shower (yes I clean the shower regularly, thanks). ", "I once pooped in their garage because I was waiting for her to come home and let me in. Please provide your email address and we will send your password shortly. more secret. Others can use this information against us, varying shades of extortion. For those who wish to become good confidants, cultivating compassion and assertiveness creates an atmosphere of trust and safety, allowing others to open up and share more freely. She can be super helpful by playing your wing woman with no judgments attached. Im only 31 years old. Im still keeping his secret. Less disturbing secrets wield power as well, and the sense of shame around secrets can be misleading and exaggerated. I told her I wouldn't but I do it every time I shower. I hope you're okay now. Sounds like your husband was a real jerk about women/virgins. They weren't actually attracted to me just what I could do for them. 4. ", "Exactly how bad of a person I used to be before I met her. Her father once told me : if he could go back in time, he would never have dated her mother and have kids with her. Approved and edited by BuzzFeed Community Team. Why Some People Refuse to Kiss During Casual Sex, Inside the Mating Psychology of Involuntary Celibates, When to Cut the Cord on an Emotionally Distant Relationship, 3 Things to Consider While Living Your "Fleabag Era", 17 Reasons to Keep Going When You Dont Think You Can, 10 Signs That You're Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Adult, The 3 Challenges for Parents of Adult Children With Autism, How to Change Your Attachment Style and Your Relationships. 40 People Reveal The Deep Secrets They've Kept From Their Partners For Years Rokas Laurinaviius and Mindaugas Baliauskas Your romantic partner is typically someone you think you know quite well. I wish I hadn't been so good at hiding it. He wanted to find a shark tooth so badly after I found one at the beach. He meant it. So I went and bought a small bottle of shark teeth from the gift shop, spread them out all over a strip of beach we were hanging at and marveled at every shark tooth he brought me. We know the truth may set us free, but in a world of misunderstanding and retaliation, the truth can also kick us pretty hard in the teeth. The point of playing hard to get is that if we force our partner to make an effort over time, it will make them want us more. She was devastated, and freaking out. I keep dark thoughts and feelings from him all the time, I'd make him miserable if I didn't. ", "I told my husband that if you yell throw me something mister! loud enough the people on the float will give you the good beads., "I told my dad and he told his float buddies, when their float came around my husband was screaming like a banshee THROW ME SOMETHING MISTER!", "My dad and his friend pelted my husband with their best beads. I got really lucky is all. She doesnt know any of this. I have anxiety attacks when my SO is away. To complete the subscription process, please click the link in the email we just sent you. I lied and told her I didn't, but the truth is, my grandmother by marriage (no blood relation) sexually harassed and abused me as a preteen and teenager. I have rheumatoid arthritis in the one hand I have, and I know its spreading. Take this quiz with friends in real time and compare results. Your partner is someone you typically think that you know, maybe even better than they know themselves, but that's not always the case. That person could be the annoying coworker you have to get along with, or that friend in the group who you just don't get along with, but she's part of the crew. Thats sweet but not very emotionally healthy imo. And i feel sorry that women rejected you because you opened up about it. Never blame people for the mistakes others made. It sounds like you need some help. Thank you for taking the time to share your feedback with us! Secrets that terrible appear to threaten our very being the choice to speak or not to speak tearing away at us, even outside of consciousness. I can never tell him the truth. Hayley Quinn agrees to this line of thinking. I hooked up with a professor of mine in college and after that she would pimp me out to her colleagues. You will most likely feel as though a weight has been lifted knowing that you are an open book to your bestie, and nothing is unknown. u/Imtryingmydude. I have that reaction when my wife gets frustrated. It was early in our marriage when we were living with her to save money for our own place. My husband told her that I was allergic to Benadryl (I'm not, I'm allergic to the pink dye) and she spun a story of antihistamines giving her necrosis. We have sent an email to the address you provided with an activation link. Toilet is clogged. In this video, we delve into the deep and dark secrets that people will never reveal to their partners. I wish I hadn't been so good at hiding it.I needed help. I am in such bad pain now and its only going to get worse. Keeping secrets can make us unhappy, as can living in fear of exposure and censure. Walked in on some other disturbing moments between them here and there but never caught them having sex again after the first time. I once pooped in their garage because I was waiting for her to come home and let me in. We joke about me believing he's dead when I don't hear from him often enough, but it's real. How would you rate the quality of the article? She may end up confessing the same. It still makes me uncomfortable. darkest secret. I think she lost 50-100 grand. Either way, it's crazy to hear these 40 secrets that were kept. My mom passed away about a week after seeing Sarah at the mall, and she gave Sarah dirty looks and a cold shoulder. Log in. I knew their back porch door was usually unlocked so I let myself in and quietly went upstairs. i had a former coworker who was a total c**t to me. Overall, there is a clear pattern that when we decide to confide secrets to others, we choose people who tend to be more compassionate and assertive, but not those who are more polite and enthusiastic. Enjoy our darkest secrets quotes collection. Some things are too cruel to do, even when you're trying to hurt each other. She runs to me (usually I am alone) and wants to know how to fix it.Then she leaves the house when I say I am just mad that: I burned my hand. He loves going on roadtrips and does landscape photography. Every year hes on a float throwing beads. His mother almost had him set to jail on insurance fraud but she spun the whole thing as a mistake so he forgave her. "You wouldn't do it, right? Research indicates that good relationships correlate with health, happiness, and longevity. I have zero self control. I just felt like my world was over and there was nothing to live for. You May Be More Vulnerable to A Dating Scammer Now, How to Cope with the Fear of a Loved One Dying, Growth Requires Unlearning as Much as Learning, 8 Essentials to Keep Your Relationship Vibrant and Healthy. I paid always in cash. You can confess to your BFF who it is you don't particularly care for. I cant envision not being able to take care of myself. Im bisexual.I am able to talk about many morbid things I have experienced and witnessed, I could be open about how many girls I have slept with, but if the truth got out that I once had a boyfriend years ago and I still find men attractive, I am afraid that it will be over.I have experienced enough rejection from women whenever I opened up about my sexuality. My father only had eyes for my sister and never addressed me. areweoutofthewoods1 , pexels Report. It is a romantic rite of passage that often marks a deepening of your relationship. It's annoying AF, and you need to tell someone about all of your Tinder date horror stories. I mask it well and hide it from pretty much everyone. The guy has Asperger's. 13 People Share Their Deepest Darkest Secrets 13 People Confess Their Unbelievable Secrets That No One Knows About Lea Rose Emery Updated March 19, 2021 4.1m views13 items When it comes to creepy stories, Reddit is basically the holy grail. "I've had such a great time getting to know you, I don't want to spoil it by keeping something from you.". Even now we're hardly apart since we both work from home. Omg I never realized you were supposed to wait until you got home. He was actually in Time Magazine for the Woman's March and he has organizes phone banks and canvasing for local women running for office. Easy-E would share information with listeners on how to get help and where to go for it. Her marriage of 28 years had ended badly and she was emotionally fragile. Your feelings for significant others have flattened as you disengaged to avoid telling the truth. Plus it's your responsibility to be open and honest with your spouse if you're using needles, just reckless to their health to keep that a secret. I cant envision not being able to take care of myself. Knowing that thats how a lot of people remember it, or if nothing else think they should remember it, i didnt want the pressure or to be "remembered" as their 1st. But some people think they will have one love for all of their life and that is an unhealthy standard to put ourselves through. most secret. His grandmother is a manipulative narcissist. First, you might want to make sure it's a crush that lasts longer than a week so you get to know the. Puppy Love. That I'm dying faster than she thinks I am. Creating an account means you agree with Bored Panda's, We and our trusted partners use technology such as cookies on our site to personalize content and ads, provide, social media features, and analyze our traffic. However, you can miss the mark of authenticity and crash land into oversharing if you do this before you've had a chance to build trust. Healing after addiction takes a long time, but it's a valuable gift to yourself. Watching true crime documentaries and listening to true crime podcasts are enough to convince me that we never really know everything about anyone. I miss her so much, and all I really want to do is curl up on the bed and wait for her to come back. We see this power of telling secrets in our personal experiences talking with friends and family members, institutionalized in religious confessionals and rituals, and as part of psychotherapy. But in reality, you might want to say an astronaut or a Quidditch player. My wife asked me not to pee in the shower. 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